10 Reasons you should get excited about starting over. 

Don’t allow yourself to stay trapped in dead situations that no longer serve your highest good.

Starting Over is a Divine Gift. I can’t even begin to let you know how liberating mastering this mindset is. However, I can guarantee that you also would get it if you are willing to invest in doing your own inner work. Consistently tuning into your own inner-standing for wisdom is the way to go if you have the desire to be liberated from the fear of failing. Lessons learned VidBlog.

Have you ever stopped to wonder who came up with the concept that it is not okay to fail?

We stay in toxic relationships in our personal and professional lives because we don’t dare or have the courage to choose again. We fear being judge as a failure for making another choice if this one did not work out the way we anticipated. We stay bound to unpleasant situations that drain the life force from our beings because we believe that we are not in control of our time, as a result, many persons will endure the discomforts of their situations because of the time already invested. 

When I think of all the greats that went before us and their amazing inventions that we are still benefiting from, I can’t help but wonder what our lives would be like if they had given up. For example, if Thomas Edison had given up after his first, second, or third attempt. Or Madam C J Walker, who created the first African American haircare products in 1905. What inspires me the most about her story is her business is still operable today. Several decades later, her family has the gift of generational wealth because she endured and found the courage to conquer all the challenges in her personal life and business. The docu-drama on her life’s story is on Netflix. Check it out. 

The walls you build to protect yourself from failure will handicap your success. The same walls you build to protect yourself from rejection will keep you prisoner on the inside. (Randy Gage).

I would be the first to admit; starting over after a failed attempt at anything, whether it is a relationship or a business, it takes every ounce of effort to get up and continue on your life’s mission. Let me give it to you straight, no chaser. For you to rise from failure, it takes a lot of courage. You have to keep your eyes on the prize. You have to be very connected to what your purpose is at your core. You have to be willing to keep going no matter what it takes. You have to have an unshakable, strong enough WHY. You have to be able to close your eyes to the naysayers and all the people who will begin their sentences with, “If I were you…” You have to be smart enough to never compare yourself to another because this is the fastest way to become discouraged. The truth is everyone is operating on different timelines. Getting up after you have put in so much work takes a lot of balls, but at the end of the day, once you have connected to the Divine dreams and visions for your life, there is no way you can fail. You have to learn how to be patient and trust the process.

Have you ever paid attention to the growth process of a tree? From the time of its conception, when the seed is planted to when it bears fruit, it’s a process. Imagine how it feels when its seedling is in the ground, with no sunlight for weeks and possibly months. Then it goes through the process of developing its roots and strong branches. Fast-forward to its season, which takes a while depending on the type of tree the fruits arrive in abundance. I believe it is the same process that applies to us. Some of us take longer than others to produce the fruits of our hard work because our roots and branches have not fully developed. Hence we have to stay committed to our dreams until it is our due season.

Your life is your story. Write it well. Edit it often ~ Lisa Nichols

Here are my ten reasons to get excited about starting over: Understand this, starting over does not mean you are a failure, nor will you be doomed for life, except if you chose that path.

1. You are getting a brand new opportunity to start again. Do not allow yourself to obsess over the time you have already invested. Time is just an illusion, yes it is one of our most valuable assets and time spent can never be reclaimed. But here is the truth, the wisdom we have gained and will enjoy in our latter years would never be a part of us without investing time in some of those relationships that didn’t work out, traveling to unknown places, or the career paths we have chosen. All of these encounters add to our overall experience.
2. You are not starting from scratch; you are starting over from experience. Sit with yourself and ask yourself some hardcore questions, don’t get up until you can be honest with yourself. YOU KNOW WHAT YOU NEED TO MAKE YOU HAPPY. As you venture on your soul-search for the truth of who you are and what you truly desire to be happy, divorce the excuse – I don’t know as a response to any of your questions.
3. Adapt this mindset or use it as an affirmation. Hold up! I am not about to suggest that you be careless and irresponsible. Give yourself as many second chances as needed to get it right. “Your life is your story. Write it well. Edit it often” Lisa Nichols. If it’s not working out, choose again, try something different. Remember what they say about insanity.
4. Get excited when your relationship that sucked anyway fails; don’t try to grab on to what was not working. Yea, I know it hurts. But how many times have you looked back at that person you were once crazy about and thought, what de hell? Hindsight is the best teacher. Here’s my revelation about this. I allowed myself to have as many relationships as I needed to be where I am today. I believe every situation that did not work out prepared me for my ultimate partner. I used my experience to do a lot of self-introspection. I met the best versions of myself because of those relationships that didn’t work out and my willingness to do my inner work instead of succumbing to self-blame and self-pity. I learned a lot about men, their personalities, temperament, desires, etc. When I paid attention, I became more aware, with this information, I was able to make better decisions on what I desired in a partner. I learned what did not work for me and became extremely passionate about what I did not want. I believe knowing what you don’t want helps you to have clarity. It allowed me to set clear boundaries and walk away if necessary if any non-negotiables showed up. If you are serious about having the life you desire, you must become unapologetic and radical with your boundaries. I choose to work on myself by being everything I wanted for myself first, so whenever someone showed up, it’s like having icing on my cake.
5. When you are at the end of a failed situation, resist the urge to do the “Why me?” Well, alright then, go ahead and throw yourself a pity party, but at the end of it, know this; there is something better on the other side. Get excited about connecting with your next best thing. Give yourself a moment to catch your breath and remember it’s not the end of the world. Every situation that did not turn out the way you expected is usually a blessing in disguise. Ask questions, have conversations with the Holy Spirit, who knows all things and sees all things. You are always guided to the lesson once you pay attention.
6. Any opportunity for change is exciting. Dig this. I know the following statement might come across as cliché to most. BUT. Change is inevitable. It will occur with or without our consent. We have to evolve. We were not created to be stagnant. We are spiritual beings having a human experience on planet earth with a specific mission, to touch lives and leave the world a better place. Particularly for those who refuse to wake up to their true calling, life will not support you if you intentionally choose to stay in stagnated situations. Once a person or a particular situation no longer contributes to your growth or your highest good, honey, life will happen. Changes come in various forms, and in most instances, they will occur when we least expect them. Case in point, the effects of the global pandemic are evidence, storms, and other natural disasters is a wake-up call. Shifts and pivots have to be a normal part of life, as disruptive as it may seem. What about the damages, you might ask? As tough as it is to lose in the moment, there is a season to rebuild, and in most cases, it’s bigger and better. Remember, you are not starting from the beginning; you will be starting with experience.
7. Failed situations are opportunities for us to level up. Have you ever took an inventory of your life? Do a scan of the different seasons and observe the high points and the low points along the way. Were you able to accomplish any of your goals without having to go through something? Do you celebrate your wins, big or small? And the seasons you held on to situations that were no longer growing you, how painful was the experience? How much unnecessary stress did you endure because you held on too long or too tight to something or someone that no longer served you? Pain is sometimes your only wake-up call to get you moving in the direction of a better life. Does this resonate? Aren’t you grateful life gives you another opportunity?
8. On your journey to fulfilling your purpose, LIFE will happen. It just does we have to learn, we have to grow and fortunately or unfortunately we don’t get to choose how. Adversity will knock at all of our doors when the time comes. Sometimes you may stump your toe or drop in a pothole or, you may even find yourself feeling like you are stuck deep in a well. (I have had those moments) It just is what it is. Dig in, and learn, don’t take any of it personally. How you choose to grow through is strictly an inside job. Do the inner work to conquer this phase because you are destiny to elevate when this phase is over. Master your internal conversations, don’t believe everything you think or feel, life brings us opportunities to support our inner growth no matter what it looks like in our outer world. There is always a lot happening behind the scenes that we do not see. So get excited about your elevation.
9. I believe some life principles must be accepted whether we like them or not. Life will never be ideal; it is not supposed to be, not even for the very rich. I heard this recently in a conversation with Randy Gage, host of Prosperity TV, he said, “Suffering and lack is a normal part of life, and in some cases, it is necessary.” I literally exclaimed out loud, OH SHIT!!! That statement hit the spot. My AHA! Lord knows I have been questioning and searching the corners of my Soul for answers. I reflected on the many times I have had encounters that felt like life knocked me off my feet, and I didn’t do anything. In the moment I thought I was being extremely careful to cultivate the right mindset, being positive, etc. But guess what? Shit still happened. What I know now that I am older and wiser is this, none of it was happening as a form of punishment. Life’s teachable moments will show up, the list can look like this: you might scratch your car, get a flat tire, miss a flight, get stuck in traffic, have health challenges, even though you may be eating healthy, lose your home or your car, someone you love would die suddenly, you may lose a baby (as I have), experience a nasty breakup, or get divorced, and the list can go on. It is a normal part of life. It is not the end of the world. When I made the connection to my higher self to seek the inner-standing I needed, I concluded that the Universe orchestrates situations and circumstances required for us to show up or be in certain places because where we were was not in alignment with our highest good. Some of the so-call miss fortunes mentioned previously will also work out for our highest good. We might not have the foresight to see the bigger picture. But I am sure you have heard stories that confirm this, missing a flight can actually save your life. However, when you are going through it in the moment, it feels like a major inconvenience, but in hindsight, it was a SHIFT that was very necessary; to possibly save your life. Two lessons inside this lesson, having to battle health challenges, will teach you and those around you how to be intentional with their overall health. And losing a loved one teaches us to appreciate each other and take no moment for granted. So I learn not to take it personally, instead be excited about what awesomeness is on the horizon. The motto I now live by is TRUST THE PROCESS I AM ALWAYS DIVINELY GUIDED.
10. This one is a biggie. Being positive does not mean life would not happen to you. Oh my gosh, if you knew me personally, I am the most optimistic person on the planet, but I don’t think I was always that way. I used to whine and complain a lot, and that is the kind of energy that attracted a lot of unpleasant people and situations. Since I changed my mindset, I can safely say I don’t feel challenged anymore. I try to speak words of life when someone asks, how are you? Instead of responding and sharing what’s going on in my outer reality, I choose to keep it simple and respond with I AM AWESOME! I use the word awesome, a lot lol. However, the real deal is this, even when you are very optimistic this does not mean you would not have unexpected, unpleasant encounters, the difference is, with your alchemistic mindset, you will be able to see the good in every bad situation. Ultimately, you are the only one who is in control of your inner world. Perspective will give you a better vision every time. Having the mindset to see the good in the most difficult situation is empowering. There’s a bible scripture that keeps me inspired through challenging times, “All things work together for our good”, it may not be evident in the moment, but it always is.

Enjoy life. Life is meant for living. Love hard. Play hard. Live life passionately. Yes! Guard your heart, but, whatever you do, don’t live life with a closed fist. Get comfortable with making mistakes, don’t dread it, we grow from our mistakes. Ponder on this for a moment: The same walls you build to protect yourself from rejection will keep you prisoner on the inside. The walls you build to protect yourself from failure will handicap your success (Randy Gage). Live. Love. Have fun with life! Don’t take it so personally. Don’t be afraid of the so-call wrong turns; the fastest way to find yourself is to get lost. Stay connected to your internal GPS they are the best guides.