Does True Love Exists or Is It Just A Myth?

Does true love exist, or is it a myth?
The Love subject has got to be the world’s most debated topic. Pausing to reflect on the question of whether or not True Love exists, a million thoughts are rolling around my mind. I can’t help but sum it all up with a good, long hmmmmm!!! The different perspectives shared by others on true love would always vary from person to person, depending on who you ask and their individual experiences. If I have to answer the question with one word, it would be a resounding YES! True love does exist, and NO, it’s not a myth. It is a topic I am willing to explore and share my accumulated wisdom. I am by no means an expert on love, God knows I have had my fair share of heartbreak, yet I am by nature a diehard romantic who LOVES love. Winks!!!

How do you know when you have encountered your true love? There is no known formula. You just know, it’s a feeling, an unshakeable vibe, a comfortable feeling that you are finally home.

Thinking of true love from the perspective of romance goes beyond the physical existence of the person. It is a feeling that once experienced, it would take you to infinity; it’s unforgettable. The best way to describe true-love connections, in a nutshell, is, it is a reciprocal act of Unconditional Love.
This connection cannot be faked; once it’s encountered, your life would never be the same. There is an invisible bond that will keep pulling you in the direction of the person. It is a connection that goes beyond magical, mind-blowing sex, long passionate kisses, and romantic moments. It really is much, much deeper than all that. There is an unexplainable level of comfort that is experienced whenever you are with the person. There’s an uncanny familiarity it feels like you have known each other for all of your life even though you are still getting to know each other on a day-to-day basis. It will seem as though you have both been assigned to each other by some invisible force. The connection is usually almost effortless and surreal.

But here is the controversy with this not-so-controversial experience. Most people seem to believe, once they are with their true love, it’s a lovey-dovey walk in the park with butterflies, doves, and roses. This is so far from the truth that even if you are reconnected with your twin-flame or soul mate, all love relationships require intentional work and dedication. The hardcore truth from my observation and my experience with true love is, it is far from what they portray in romantic movies and novels. You will have moments of doubts, you will have fights, you may even have a few cuss-outs, and you will piss each other off royally from time to time. Should more people be honest, we may rid ourselves of the fictional ideas and expectations that true love or any type of love, as a matter-of-fact is without its fair share of challenges. You will discover that true-love relationships are no fairy tale, though you may have and enjoy many beautiful moments together. On the flip side, when life gets real, you will experience moments that would challenge you to your core. Do not be discouraged as this is quite normal, true-love partnerships require us to tap into unconditional love, the deepest type of love that we will ever be able to express for ourselves and to others. Growth takes place once both parties are fair participants.

Have you ever given any thought to the dynamics of a relationship? What are the requirements? Beyond meeting someone to whom you are attracted, what does it really take to experience a successful relationship? What is the purpose of relationships? Let us explore for a moment so we can grasp a deeper understanding of the purpose of relationships. ALL relationships are designed to introduce us to parts of ourselves we may or may not like. If willing to do the work, this would challenge us to be better versions of ourselves. When we allow ourselves to succumb to the lesson of the moment, it will serve to heal and nurture us to become the best version of who we are at our core.

If you can, do allow yourself a moment to further explore the dynamics. A romantic relationship is made up of two individuals who have their own unique issues and challenges coming together to share them-self with one another while navigating their own life’s challenges. Do you agree? With that out of the way, the question is, how do you make it work? Simply, you have to be intentional to successfully navigate the challenges that WILL come up as the relationship gets comfortable. It will require a lot of honest, open communication, understanding, and selflessness to nurture your true-love relationship. None of us are perfect, though we may share the most amazing connection we come into relationships with our own sets of baggage, past hurt, trust issues, and other unresolved issues. And if you did not put in the individual work to heal or aren’t actively working on being a better version of yourself, then allowing yourself to experience true love with someone else will not be fair.

One of my first major lessons learned from my true-love relationship was I had to clear my head and mind of how things are “supposed to be”. Rigid ideas don’t belong in a two-person connection. Relationships are two different people with their own perspectives and various ways of doing things; everyone is not the same. People are not computer programs. There is no mold, all men are not the same neither is every woman; therefore, being neutral, flexible, and allowing yourself room to adapt to your partner’s personality and natural flow of being is the best gift you will give to yourself and by extension your relationship.

My next major lesson was I had to be consistent with working on letting go of my ego. The ego is our biggest hindrance in our relationships and with ourselves. There will always be unnecessary challenges if you are not willing to release your ego and allow things to flow peacefully. This does not mean there won’t be any disagreements but, with the ego, in check, it is much easier to resolve any issues.

How do you know when you have encountered your true love? There is no known formula. You just know, it’s a feeling, an unshakeable vibe, a comfortable feeling that you are finally home. The other tell-tale sign is despite all of the challenges you may encounter together, you would both know and feel there is no one else and nowhere else you prefer to be than working through your differences with each another.