Navigating Disappointment

When navigating a season of disappointment, how do you climb out of the pit of despair?

Disappointment is a sneaky bastard. If you are not in the space of practicing mindfulness, it will sneak up on you like a thief in the night. It will strip you of your confidence, your joy, your peace, your faith, your hope, and your self-worth. It will make you question everything you think you know.

Let me tell you this, if you have never been here yet, you will, one day. Once you have intentionally decided to be purpose-driven, that’s all it takes.
On the journey to fulfilling your destiny, you will be walking along, head high, confident, dignified, and assured. There you are, full of hope, minding your business, then boom! The disappointment monster will pounce on you, catching you off-guard. He can knock you so hard it shakes you to the core of your being.

Marry the vision, date the path.

Sharron Jamison

I describe him as a thief because, in the moment, you lose hope in your vision. You would feel like you have lost everything even though you are still breathing. Amid the surprise, it is difficult to see, hear or feel anything but his presence. You forget everything. You feel lost, hopeless, and downright shooked.

What I observed is the worse, in retrospect is, discovering some of those situations there was a lack of self-trust. When you realized you ignored your intuition and you give others the benefits of the doubt by trusting them with details of the thing that is most important to you; it makes you feel worse than the blow itself.

Practice Self-compassion.

I have never considered this statement super important until recently “You cannot become your best self by yourself”. I’ve been hearing this a lot from several people. You need your tribe; you need to be aligned with the right people who see your potential and would happily give you the support you need in whatever way they can. I also observed, most people, especially the ones who claim to love you, do not always have your best interest at heart. It is never their priority to see you win. It is rare to find people who will understand the importance of their role in helping you to fulfill your destiny. Most people will commit but not honor their word or take the time to pay attention to the little details. It is often the little details that cause unnecessary delays and damage to self-trust and belief in others.

Experiencing a series of this deep level of disappointment has the power to bring you to your knees and fill you with doubts, regrets, what-ifs, and questions of your faith. (Told you he was sneaky)
It is never healthy to stay there because it will cripple you if you ever do. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Carefully observe how you navigate this dark pit. Take a day or two to walk around engage your thoughts. I believe it is necessary. It is okay for us to succumb from time to time.

Yes, we are spiritual beings navigating the human experience. However, the duality is we are humans trying our best to remember that we are spiritual beings. It is inevitable to get this; eventually, you will be in a better space within to give yourself the compassion needed to walk out of there enlightened.

Practicing mindfulness keeps us aware.

What I discovered is everything has a spiritual experience attached. Whenever we experience disappointment, it is not meant to break us. Its only purpose is for us to learn how to trust the process. I wholeheartedly believe that nothing will stand in the way of someone who is manifesting at the level of destiny. Things may not always work out the way we plan them. But purpose does not follow a traditional path, if you see it that way, then disappointment will be your constant companion.

In my analysis, I noted this, it may not come via the train station; it may come via a jet. Therefore, you have to be at the airport. But sometimes we misread the memo, and you are all the way across town waiting on the train when you should have been at the airport. I heard this via Sharron Jamison, “Marry the vision; date the path”. In other words, stay committed even if you have to crawl. Be open to redirection; it is a part of life, and sometimes, this may show up in the form of disappointment.

Shifts are always happening.

When navigating a season of disappointment, how do you climb out of the pit of despair? Self-love. Acknowledging the role we play in making decisions. Not self-blame. Accepting responsibility. Cutting loose of unreliable people. Pay attention. Self-compassion. Self-forgiveness. Prayer. Meditation. Diving into your reservoir of HOPE. Recalling the fact that all things are working together for your good. Continued belief in your vision. Remembering THE MOST HIGH GOD/THE UNIVERSE will never bring you this far to just bring you this far. Recall that SHIFTS ARE ALWAYS HAPPENING. There is work happening behind the scenes. Remembering everything that is divinely assigned to you belongs with you. No one else can steal or covet it.
So cry if you have to and when you are done BREATHE and remember The One guiding your every step. GOD IS BOSS! STAY FOCUSED!