5 Benefits of Aging if you have done the work and some guidance tips.

When I was younger, late teen’s early 20s, aging was never a thing I reflected on; I lived life and had a blast. I remembered age twenty-five vividly I hosted an intimate celebration with my son being the highlight. And after that, it was a blur. Then I remembered turning 40 and, of course, my 50th because those were significant. I spent those on two different beautiful islands, Turks and Caicos and Tobago, respectively.

I had the opportunity to chat with 2 beautiful women over 50 who shared their perspectives. Reflection on the benfits of aging

My concerns about aging came from observing my younger friends and a few from the mature ones, listening to them whining about one thing or another. Everyone had their unique concerns; analyzing their points of view made me curious enough to pay attention. Aging was never a concern of mine, even though I recalled a few wtf moments that involved my knees, nothing serious drinking more water couldn’t solve.

Honestly, in my body, I don’t know how my soon-to-be 53-year-old body should feel. Truth be told I, still feel like I am 25. 2020 into 2021 has been the most challenging year because of all the stress that accompanied navigating the unknown (pandemic) I had experienced moments when I felt like I had aged a few years. But as soon as the discomfort wore off, I went back to the feeling of being 25 again.

Here are a few benefits of aging that I have been enjoying. Even if you were paying, I would not be interested in going back to my twenties or thirties unless I can take the wisdom I now have with me. Winks!

It is paramount to mention that wisdom does not come without doing the work. We have to invest in personal development and be intentional with our growth to evolve into the woman or man we desire to be in the future.

• SPIRITUALITY as a result of you doing the work, learning to trust your Divine GPS, you learn to trust yourself. Doing the work overall to develop an intimate relationship with yourself is holistic. Learning to trust your guidance, another way of putting this, is mastering your GUT GAME. When you have this down, you won’t entertain liars/gamers or anyone whose intention is to take advantage of you. You would spot them a mile away.
• LIBERATION if you are doing the work by the time you hit your 40s into 50s, you should have a strong sense of self beyond the labels, titles, and names. By this time, your likes, dislikes, and desires should be clear. If it’s not, don’t feel bad, it’s never too late to develop an intimate relationship with yourself.
• FREEDOM from feeling obligated to others. You choose your experience based on your desires. You are clear about your YES and even more crystal clear about your NO. You do what you do because you want to and not because of guilt or a false sense of obligation. You are not afraid to stand in your truth even if it means losing people. You understand that you can never lose. You either win or learn. It is also crystal clear that only those assigned to your future will ride the waves of life with you, and you will be ok with those who didn’t make the cut. I noted that friendships have an active and an inactive season. It is typical to meet persons who may impact your life and or you theirs, and when the season is over, you may never see them again. Some people fade into the backdrop of our lives even though they are there, and some will seem to varnish it is the natural cycle. 
• SEXUALITY you are very grounded in your sexuality because you are confident and liberated. You are no longer afraid to disappoint others who are not willing to recognize your worth. You are assertive in and out of the bedroom; for that reason, there is no longer a need to indulge in situations that would not meet YOUR desires. You don’t settle.
• CLEAR VISION, by this time, you will have a clear vision of your future desires. Or maybe I am just a dreamer. On a serious note, in hindsight, I have had many of my dreams come through though many of them are not tangible. They say the best moments experienced in life cannot be touched or seen by others. It is felt only by the person who has had the experience. And the most beautiful part is, it could forever ruminate in that part of you that no one can tamper with, Smiles.

In between the heartaches and adversities, life has brought me some beautiful experiences. What I have learned and observed so far is without any of it, there is no wisdom. Wisdom is only acquired from accumulated experiences from yourself and observing others.

I feel more than ready to begin Book 3 or 4 Chapter 1; I have lost count. What I know for sure is this: life is a series of moments, good, bad, and indifferent, all of which are much needed for us to grow into beautiful versions of ourselves to serve only our best to the world. YOU are the only author who can write a great story.🥰

9 Tips For Aging Gracefully

1. Invest in your spirituality; it’s the one thing and sometimes maybe the only thing that would ground and anchor you when the storms come.
2. Make Personal Development a priority. This practice contributes to improving your self-esteem, your self-worth and gives perspective to who you are as a person. Merged with your spiritual practices, you are more equipped to navigate your relationships and other day-to-day life challenges.
3. Eat well. Your food is your medicine, so be intentional with what you put into your body, especially in your younger days. Eat for your future self. It is a myth old age does not have to be accompanied by illness.
4. Having a consistent exercise routine is a MUST. It’s a way to preserve your cardiovascular health and enjoy other health benefits. On the days you feel funky emotionally, try taking a walk and note the positive impact on your overall well-being.
5. Indulge in a skincare and body routine using products that will compliment your skin type. A consistent personal care routine has significant benefits, not just for your body it can also impact your self-confidence. See this as a future investment, real estate for your skin.
6. Stay clear from people who gossip; this eliminates negativity and unnecessary stress from your life. Be someone who has integrity, is confidential and trustworthy with the personal information of others. That is if you want a drama-free life.
7. Guard your mind, body, and soul. Information is like food; it has the power to nourish or to be toxic. Choose wisely
8. Do have a self-care routine. Set aside time to nurture yourself. Live a balanced life, work, fun, laughter, sex, me-time, travel, explore, indulge in your guilty pleasures, do nothing.
9. Rest is a necessity for the mind, body, and spirit. Sleep for your health.