What are your thoughts on aging?
You have a couple thousand days to live if you are lucky, remember you only die once; MAX THE HELL OUT OF LIFE.
How did you feel when you saw your first gray hair? I smiled at the first sign of mine, my exact thought was, what de hell? Why does it seem to be so personal that the first signs of graying show smack on the front of the hairline?
The day I took the pic I looked at it thought, wow! You look amazing, then my eyes caught the visible grays, and there were those intruding thoughts, “You getting old.” Omg!
On a serious note, I am thrilled that my mindset around aging is different. I have never associated gray hair as a sign of aging. I recalled a boy next door who was 14 and very gray. I also have other references of a few youths who grayed early, and on the flip-side mature persons with no visible grays. My parents are the perfect example; their grays showed up well into their late 60s. However, there must have been a general program that intruded many moons ago that associated gray hair with hints of, “Yuh getting ole”. Aging With Awareness vidBlog.
These days it is nice to observe many women and men are embracing their grays. Grays are now sported as a funky trend that has nothing to do with aging. Ok! I would be honest there are still some folks who are stuck in the matrix. So we have to pray for them. It is uncanny to observe that some consider you to be old once you hit a certain double-digit. Somehow the onus seems to be more on women than men to do something about this natural phenomenon that visits all of us. The pressure is on all around for women, especially in the dating realm.
Generally, men fifty-plus dating younger women are celebrated; he is nicknamed “a stud”, or “sweet boy”. Women the same age are considered to be gone-over-the-hill, especially if she is still single, she is somehow expected to settle for the dregs, and worse, if she opts to date someone younger, she earns the title “cougar”. The worse part is she may even be judged and frowned upon by her female counterparts.
Back it up a bit… have y’all noticed the way both women and men are aging these days? I mean dam!!! I know women who are in their 60s that look like they are 40. And women in their 50s rocking their age so well they look like 30. I have concluded, people are generally taking better care of themselves holistically hence are aging more graciously.
I have never been overly concerned with aging. In hindsight, I have embraced and thoroughly enjoyed every stage of aging. My late teens’ into my early twenties were a little bit rocky. I was more grounded into who I wanted to be after I became a mom(23). By age twenty-five, I developed an insatiable passion for life and started the journey of self-discovery. My 30s were a blast, and in my 40s, I appreciated the woman I was evolved into. My 50s journey began in 2018. I feel so freaking liberated and assertive even if I am paid a billion dollars; I ain’t going back to my 20s or 30s lol unless I could take with me the wisdom that I have accumulated to date.
I am having a blast with life every few months am discovering a new version of myself. I am uncovering my layers and loving the person who is evolving.
Today, I have the advantage of presenting the best version of myself to any given situation. I am assertive enough to demand no less in return, not in arrogance but with the class, grace, and elegance required.
As it relates to my body, I am super grateful that I have zero issues. My body is so good to me I am thankful. I appreciate all the inner intricacies it requires to keep me functioning. I discovered that the best way to stay on top of your game is the complementary nutrition for your body type. Keep that body moving, exercise, even if you walk a few times a week. Have a consistent skincare routine for your skin type. Take care of your spiritual, mental, and emotional health. A flexible mindset, an adaptable attitude for the environment you are in, ground yourself spiritually, heal your wounds so you can let go of bitterness, resentment, and forgiveness. Work on your self-esteem so that you understand your self-worth. Oh, it is so critical to understand your value.
Find and develop your passion; when you discover this, you would never work a day in your life. Manage your stress, stay away from relationships that do not support your wellbeing. Everyone loves delicious gossip, but some of that shit will ruin your peace of mind. When second-hand information is retold, it creates unnecessary drama. Mind your business and keep your opinions to yourself unless engaged.
Refresh, Rejuvenate, Exhale, Reprogram 